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Imagine this. You're hitchhiking alone in a foreign country. There's nothing for miles. That's when you come across a homeless man. You go tense. He asks you, you got any food? You lie because you don't want to be robbed. So you say, only a little. And you know what the homeless man does? He gives you some of his own food, because he wants to make sure you're okay, that you've got what you need. This actually happened to someone, it's a bastion younger, and this set his imagination of fire. He wondered when the last time he ever felt responsible for somebody else.
We are wired to serve ourselves, and we are wired to serve the group. And in a healthy society, those two are in a dynamic tension with each other and in balance. In modern society, there really is no group to serve, and it leads to a really profound sense of meaninglessness for a lot of people. That was younger on the Joe Rogan experience. It isn't just a bummer that we aren't close with our neighbors. It's a fatal flaw in our society, and you might be feeling the symptoms.
Sebastian Younger is a war reporter, a writer, and an Oscar-nominated filmmaker. He co-directed the 2010 film Restrepo and its 2014 follow-up, Corangal. Both films bring the viewer into the physical and mental distress of the soldiers deployed to the most dangerous place in Afghanistan. He also wrote the book The Perfect Storm, a true story of Men Against the Sea, which was made into the popular film starring George Clooney and Mark Wahlberg. Danger and uncertainty attracted him to those places and stories. He researched people like him as well as the history of long-term effects of war. This culminated in the 2016 book, Tribe, on Homecoming and Belonging. It's a book that uses history and psychology to explore our need for the tribe and why we lack it today.
Sebastian Younger是一位战地记者、作家和奥斯卡提名的电影制片人。他与他人共同导演了2010年的电影《Restrepo》和2014年的续集《Corangal》。两部电影展示了被派往阿富汗最危险地区的士兵们的身体和心理痛苦。他还写了《完美风暴》这本书,讲述了海难逃生的真实故事,后来还被制成了由乔治·克鲁尼和马克•沃尔伯格主演的流行电影。危险和不确定性吸引了他去那些地方,并探究人类与长期战争后遗症的历史。这最终在2016年的书籍《部落》中得到了总结,关于归家和归属感。这是一本结合历史和心理学来探讨我们为何需要部落以及今天我们为何缺乏它的书籍。
In this book, Insight, we'll explore humanity's relationship with tribalism, and how losing that affects society. The book begins in the early days of America's white settlement. The new settlers were supposed to be equal in the new world, but race and class divisions were very real. The native Indian population, on the other hand, lived in genuinely egalitarian style. Authorities were not seized, but earned, and if you weren't happy with your tribal group, you were free to leave. White Americans spread out across the landmass, taking with them a sense of cultural superiority.
But a funny thing happened. We'll let Younger explain in his talk with Joe Rogan again. There was also a lot of young white people, particularly white men, but young women too, who basically absconded across the frontier into tribal society. They fled white society. They didn't like it. As Benjamin Franklin pointed out, we have lots of young colonial fleeing to the Indians, and we have not one example of an Indian, as they were called, fleeing to white society. Franklin also noted how Indian children almost always returned to their original group after the briefest of contact. And yet, lots of white captives, when freed, returned to the woods and planes to find their Indian families.
Why is this? A French settler once wrote, there must be in their social bonds something singularly captivating. The Indians had something that made white Europeans leave their old life behind. What was it? As early as the 1600s, English women mingled with and sometimes married Indian men. Mary Jamison, once captured by the Seneca people, later wrote that Indian women didn't have a harder life. They had plenty of food, social and sexual freedom, and were more equal to men. Hunting and gathering interested them more than plowing fields. With no personal property, there's a feeling of all for one, one for all. Loyalty encouraged were everything, fighting to the death for the sake of the group with something every person faced. So tribal life had its attractions.
But why exactly did civilized life pale next to it? You'd figure the one with more material comfort and physical security would look best.
但是为什么文明生活会在它旁边黯淡无光呢?你会想,拥有更多物质舒适和身体安全的生活方式应该是最好的。
You see, civilized life compels people to work more. The richer the society, the less free the individual. Compare this to the CUN people of the Kala Hari. They only need to work 12 hours a week to survive because they shared whatever was hunted or gathered. They don't have the trait of a wealth we do, but they have freedom and control of their time.
Thousands of years ago, all humans lived like the CUN do. We lived in tribes of maybe 50. People spent their time together intensely loyal and never alone. Our brains evolved to one and expect this kind of closeness. Today we live in cities or suburbs where we go whole days without talking to anyone. We don't know our neighbors anymore. We've made stunning advances in medicine and health, but there's an epidemic in depression, anxiety, chronic loneliness, and schizophrenia.
Extreme inequality is a major reason for this. A World Health Organization study found that extreme mood disorders are much more common in countries such as the US, where the income disparity is great. Here's younger Angio Rogan again.
If you look at those alcoholism, depression, suicide, and effluent neighborhoods, I mean it's astronomical. It's brutal. Mental illness and high suicide rates seem normal to us, but are rare in tribal societies. Among Native Indian peoples, a person only takes their life to avoid death at the hands of an enemy or an old age to not burden the tribe. It was done in some purposeful, rational way and not from general misery. Today, despite their greater wealth, US-born Mexicans are more likely to get depressed than Mexicans in Mexico. Prosperity has many comforts and wonders, but it also pushes us to live more separately. In poorer countries, people are forced to live together and be more dependent. The flip side is constant companionship in a sense of shared struggle and sacrifice. This is exactly how humans evolved to live. Wealth can't replace that.
In psychology, self-determination theory says that people need some basic things. They need a feeling that they can do things or competence. They need a feeling that their lives have meaning or authenticity. And they need a feeling that they're connected to others. Things such as wealth, status, and beauty are nice, but inessential. Younger's point isn't that the Native cultures are superior to European ones, but the way their organization is how humans lived for millennia.
Deep tribal loyalty and connection didn't just feel good for the members, it's crucial to group wanted to survive. Today, we lack this sense of closeness. We lose opportunities to show loyalty and sacrifice to the larger group. We fall into social and spiritual voids. Today, we learn just how bad our modern society understands the needs of the individual.
Next time, we're learning how this relates to war and what happens to the soldier who finds their tribal calling and then loses it. We'll conclude our talk later by discussing what today's contentious atmosphere means for our desire for closeness and purpose.
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Today, only about 10% of American servicemen see active combat. Compared to wars like Vietnam or World War II, our soldiers suffer far less casualties. So you'd figure disabilities would follow this trend, right? The recent wars in Iraq and Afghanistan have produced, thank God, a casualty rate about one-third of what it was in Vietnam. But they've also created, they've also produced three times the disability rates.
That was Sebastian Younger giving a TED talk. The title of the TED talk is, Our Lonely Society Makes It Hard to Come Back From War. How can coming home be more of a challenge than active combat in Vietnam? What's our modern society doing that's so damaging for these men and women?
We're continuing our discussion on tribe, on homecoming and belonging. This slim book was written by war journalist and Academy Award-nominated filmmaker, Sebastian Younger. In our last talk, we explored the differences between European settlers in early America and the first people. We learned that while Native Americans rarely adopted the white people's way, the whites abandoned their lifestyles to live in the tribes.
We've lived in close knit communities for thousands of years. The Indian tribes connected with our need for belonging.
我们已经在紧密联系的社群中生活了数千年。印第安部落能够满足我们归属的需求。
In this book, in sight, we're discussing how war fits into our tribal psychology and question why a soldier misses the action.
在这本书里,我们正在探讨战争如何符合我们的部落心理,并质疑为什么士兵会想念行动。
We'll start by taking a look at England in World War II. Just before the Germans started the London Blitz, authorities worried Londoners would be too scared to leave the underground shelters. Without anybody working, the economy would collapse. But the opposite happened. They were defiant, risking their lives to keep the city running. They got behind the war effort.
Above ground, scores of people were killed by bombs, but mass hysteria never took. Psychiatrists reported a drop in psychiatric admittance, and in many existing cases, the symptoms of mental illness disappeared. You could see the same thing happening in Paris. During the war, the city's psych wards emptied, even after the Nazis began their occupation. In Germany, the people were only getting more defiant. The highest morale was recorded in cities like Dresden that were bombed the most.
The same thing happened in Spain in its civil war, in Lebanon, and in Northern Ireland. During the Belfast riots, suicide, depression, and homicide fell. Meanwhile, in County Dairy, where there was no violence, rates of depression increased.
Charles Fritz in American observed England. He analyzed the bombings effects. He concluded that extreme conditions reinforced social bonds. Disasters in anxiety created a community of sufferers. Class, wealth, and racial differences lose their significance. People are judged only by what they give to the group.
The American writer Thomas Payne once said that in times of war or calamity, communities don't lapse into moral chaos. People go out of their way to ensure fairness and equality are upheld.
Look at New Orleans after Hurricane Katrina. There's a widespread myth that the city descended into criminal chaos. In fact, crime dropped. Most of the looting was just people needing food.
The problem with modern life is we don't get to live for the collective good.
现代生活的问题在于,我们没有机会为集体利益而生活。
Younger interviewed Nitzara, a medic of Vec, a Bosnian journalist. This is him talking about meeting this young woman who survived the atrocities of Sarajevo.
I met this extraordinary woman, Nitzara Amitassovich, who was wounded at age 17 by a Serb tank round that hit her parents apartment. They almost had to cut off her leg. They saved the leg, but they operated on her full reconstructive surgery without anesthesia. Because there was just nothing in Sarajevo at the time. And when I met her last summer, she said almost embarrassed. She said, you know, the siege was so terrible. It was so hard. But you know what? We all kind of miss it. And she literally lowered her voice because she was embarrassed by the thought.
She admitted that she misses the close relationships she formed with her friends. They lived together in an apartment block basement. Because every day was life or death, they lived intensely. There were intense love affairs, deep discussions of literature, and laughter to fill a lifetime. When the war ended, she would call people to start living for themselves again. She told Younger, we didn't learn the lesson of the war, which is how important it is to share everything you have with human beings close to you.
Any sane person hates war. Hates the idea of war. Wouldn't want to have anything to do with it. Doesn't want to be near it. Doesn't want to know about it. That's a sane response to war.
That's Younger on one of his TED talks. He's clear on his feelings, but says it inspires ancient human virtues of courage, loyalty, and selflessness. These can be utterly intoxicating to the people who experience them. And this is the secret behind veterans struggling to adjust to peacetime. Normal life just seems much less meaningful because it lacks an intense tribal element.
What is war's effect on people who live it every day? What happens to people when peace eventually comes?
战争对每天经历它的人有什么影响?和平最终到来时,人们会发生什么?
Compared to the World War, soldiers today see less action. However, traumatic stress, depression, and suicide are on the rise. The problem isn't that soldiers see or do horrific things, but what happens when they go home?
Here's Younger making a comparison during a TED talk. We know that if you take a lab rat and traumatize it and put it in a cage by itself, you can maintain its trauma symptoms almost indefinitely. And if you take that same lab rat and put it in a cage with other rats, after a couple of weeks, it's pretty much okay. People take longer to recover from war in rich countries because the contrast between war and civilian life is so great. There's no shared struggle among the general population. Instead, sometimes there's hostility.
That's an XP score of volunteers return from close-knit units to a competitive society in which every person is out for themselves. There's little sense of camaraderie in the homeland. The issue then is not the experience of challenging situations, but with the home they return to. What is it about modern society that is so dispiriting?
Here's Younger again on the Joe Rogan experience. Yeah, I mean, we're not wired to be confronted with strangers all day long. I live in New York City, and I love New York City, but all day long you encounter strangers and you don't recognize anybody. So you can be alone in a crowd, which is not something that human beings have experienced until quite recently in their history. Sharon Abramowitz, a Peace Corps volunteer, describes the modern world as an anti-human society. It's cold and alienating because our basic human need is to be close to others, emotionally and physically. Modern life bars those essential needs. The lack of connection between people is in stark contrast to the way we evolved socially over thousands of years.
Now consider rampage killings where a gunman takes down strangers. Not one has ever happened in an urban ghetto. They're always in white, low-crime towns where the population are middle to upper class. In inner city areas, gun killings are due to gang warfare, which is driven by loyalty and revenge. The indiscriminate nature of rampage killing is the opposite. Extremely nation-caused by a person feeling they're ignored and not part of anything. They begin to hate the world around them.
Today we learned how veterans and volunteers don't only suffer from returning to civilization. They struggle at adapting to the distant and cold world civilians live in. Next time we'll conclude our book insight on Sebastian Younger's tribe. We'll discuss how our politically divided world is ruining our community. Enjoying this episode of book insights? If so, keep listening and learning. There's a collection of over 100 titles you can read or listen to now at memodeapp.com slash insights.
This is from Fox News. President Trump doubled down against the media after a meeting he had with the publisher of the New York Times at the White House. The president sent out a tweet. Fake news has morphed into the phrase enemy of the people. The NHG sales burger, who's the publisher of the Times Fire's Back saying I told him.
America has some troubles. We've all got opinions and beliefs regarding our politics. We've always had them. But it's leveled up to open warfare. How can a nation continue to operate under such extreme divisions? How are we vulnerable to those looking to undermine us? And what does this mean for the individual looking for belonging in purpose? Today we'll be concluding our talk on Sebastian Younger's book, Tribe on Homecoming and Belonging.
We've previously discussed how the human race prefers to live in tribes, just like how we did thousands and thousands of years ago. We've also learned how our modern society promotes alienation and mental illness. Then we learned the real reason why military veterans today suffer from post-traumatic stress disorders. It's not what they experienced over there, but what they're coming home to.
In this book in sight, we'll examine how America's destructive and politically tense society is affecting our sense of tribe. Then we'll review what we learned from Younger's book, Tribe. America is tearing itself apart on every dimension. Younger remembers coming back from war zones. After the shock of American comfort, it quickly turned to dismay. America is a society basically at war with itself, he says. People are full of toxic contempt for the government, for the poor, for the rich, and for foreigners. What would happen to a tribal society that exhibits this kind of behavior?
A group of soldiers holding a post can't afford to revile each other. They work together or die. A nation that doesn't have a common vision is at risk of extinction. A more united nation will see the cracks in the wall. They'll take advantage of them and divide in conquer. Younger doesn't mention Russia explicitly, but it's easy to extrapolate what he's talking about. When a nation loses its tribal ethos, you not only get mass social security fraud, but bankers creating fraudulent products that lead to a financial collapse.
Over the past few weeks, many Americans have felt anxiety about their finances and their future. I understand their worry and their frustration. We've seen crippled digit swings in the stock market. Major financial institutions have teetered on the edge of collapse, and some have failed. That was President George W. Bush addressing the nation after the 2008 financial crash. This happened while troops were overseas fighting for our nation.
For the last 100 years, the U.S. National Suicide Rate has perfectly matched the unemployment rate. The financial crisis of 2008 led to a 5% spike in suicides. British epidemiologists estimated in the first two years alone, 5,000 more people took their lives than normal.
What kind of society do we have where people seek more for themselves at the expense of others? Younger highlights the contrast between community punishments. He looked at perceived military traders and deserters such as Bo Bergl. Today Bergl at a court-martial hearing at Fort Bragg pleaded guilty to desertion. He told the military judge, I understand leaving was against the law. I understand I endanger the safety of my platoon. That's ABC covering the story of the former sergeant who abandoned his post in Afghanistan.
But what happened to the CEOs that played a part in the financial crisis? What the Goldman executives defended their actions and said they didn't cause the financial crisis. Which we could have done better in hindsight, but at the times that we made the decisions and think we did anything wrong. That was from the Associated Press. Not one CEO was sent to prison, and most continued to receive massive bonuses. The formula of betrayal with no punishment, mixed with a nation without solidarity, could be farther from the tribal ethos we humans evolved from.
No wonder people fall mentally ill, go on rampages and are filled with contempt. Younger favors national service in America to bring back a sense of tribal belonging. We'll feel responsibility for each other and for the whole. It would reduce the goal of between veterans and the general public, as well as providing a channel for boys to be more safely and less randomly initiated into adulthood.
The war between liberals and conservatives gets us nowhere. Each have outlooks that are rooted in our evolutionary past. We've always had voices pushing for the tribal ideal of equality and everyone looking out for each other. This is represented in the US by the Democrats. Then there is the view that no one in society should get a free ride, that we're responsible for ourselves and cheating of any kind must be punished. This is generally represented by conservative Republicans in the US. Each view has roots in our evolutionary, tribal past. The gap between them will never be resolved. So we should stop wasting time and energy defending our side and quit expressing contempt for the view we don't believe in. The only way to solve this is for both parties to be given respect.
A healthy society encompasses fairness and equality. We make sure more vulnerable people are helped and protected and we encourage others, and they share the bounty. It's a sacrifice but one that's got massive benefits overall. Human beings are social, happiest when deeply valued by our tribe. We take our groups for granted. There's nothing worse than feeling outcast or exiled.
Here's Younger Angio Rogan again. We're in middle-class neighborhoods. And that communal connection, I mean, literally meeting people on the landing of your apartment building. Right? Meeting people on the doorstep, on the street. You know, those kinds of human interactions, even in an economically stressed neighborhood, that those create enough of a sense of community that people who might otherwise go crazy and turn their guns in this nihilistic way and on innocent people, that they just don't do it. Because why would I do that to my own people?
As individuals of society, we've become so used to the desire to win. That we've forgotten a more deeper, perhaps more important need to belong. Thank you for listening to this book Insight. Thank you for listening to book Insights. Check out the rest of our content at memo.com.
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